Unfortunately, it is very common for men to act as though the miscarriage did not affect them at all. A lot of times though they are hurting - and just trying to be strong for us. My boyfriend did the same thing - I wondered so many times if he even remembered our babies. My doctor warned us both after the first miscarriage that this is actually very common because many people - especially men and women - grieve in very different ways, and just because they don't express it, doesn't mean a man isn't grieving. Even having been told that, there were still countless times that I questioned if he even remembered our babies - most recently this past January - at the one year anniversary of our first miscarriage. I was so upset and told him that I felt that no one remembered our babies but me. He told me that he did think about it - every day - and even shared a beautiful poem he had written for our babies - a poem I had no idea he had written. I would suggest that you be honest with your husband and tell him how much it would mean to you if he could tell you what he is feeling about the miscarriage. Good luck, and remember we are here for you whenever you need us - and when you can't get the support you need from your husband.
