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[MelV]

Having a hard time latly. My twins would have been born on February 2nd. I probably would already have them here in fact. On top of that I had another miscarrage on December 21st, my second one now. I just started some counseling and that has been helping, along with the support that is in this forum. My mother in law is filling my husbands head with all kinds of silly reasons why I probably miscarried again, none of which he is buying of course. Of course to her it is my problem, something I did to cause the misscarriages. Can you believe that !! she is so ignorant. Telling my husband that it was because i was on birth control for so long (7 years) or because I had a D and C or because of the chemicals in my work (haircolorist) which all by the way is bull crap. I've been reading a fantastic book lately on miscarriage, still birth and such, it is called   "Coming to term." , by Jon Cohen.  I believe it is one of the most factual books on miscarraige, he really go to great depths with his research and he doesn't leave you feeling like you have no information. I have learned so much already that i never knew and i am only in the third chapter. I hope everyone is doing well....
                      MelV

[Miss My Baby]

Mel,
I'm sorry you're having a hard time.  So many of those.  I've come to understand that the moments of relief are really just resting points in between the battles of our emotions.  They must be God's way of fortifying us so we don't give up.  They are precious, aren't they?  Your book sounds interesting.  I hope it helps keep you from letting you MIL fill you with doubt - eventually, with enough time, people can convince us of almost anything.  I'm glad your husband is not falling for it all.  I'll include you in my prayers extra for the next couple days.  I know my due date was difficult.  God bless you!
Love, MMB

[caitlin]

Sorry to hear about your loss.Don't let your mother-in-law get to you.My own mother always says it was because I had the depo shot.And the only reason she blames that is because my sister was on it too and she also miscarried.My mother says that was the reason why she had lost her baby.I don't listen to what anyone says when it comes to things like that only because you and I both know that we did what we could.There is a reason for everything.That is what I was always taught and I believe it.I know one day I will get to see my baby again but for now it is really hard to cope with.There is no reason as of why such things happen but hold your head up high even though it is hard.I know its not easy but coming to this site helps me alot.I wish you the best of luck and may god be with you.

[dbpilcher]

I am so sorry.  Anniversaries can be so hard!  I also suffered through two miscarriages last year - one in January and one in May.  This is hard enough to get through without someone like your MIL around making things worse!  As if we don't have hard enough time not blaming ourselves without someone else placing blame on us!!!  Hang in there!  I will keep you in my prayers, especially today.

My baby would have been born on Feb 2,2009 I miss my lil' one and only God knows why he took our angels from us