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[russell12170]

im bleeding. its lust like it started before. im scared. please pray.
i'll keep u posted.

[TM]

Oh Ruth,

I am praying for you, try to stay positive. I bled with Jenna and everything turned out fine.

Keep us posted.
Teresa

[russell12170]

i know it could be nothing. its just really scary that this is how my miscarriage started and i really thought it was nothing and that turned out bad.  it seems much lighter but im thinking thats cause hubby made me stay in bed all day yesterday. i havent gone to the doctor cause its brown. just taking it easy waiting to see if it turns red. thanks for your prayers and support.
ruth

[russell12170]

the baby died. it stopped growing at 6 weeks. i havent decided if im going to let it happen naturally or have a d&c. a part of me wants to get it over with and a part of me wants to hold onto my baby a little longer.  keep us in prayer and maybe we'll be back in a few months but u all will be gone by then.

[TM]

Oh Ruth,
I am so sorry. I was so hoping everything turned out well for you. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Teresa

[russell12170]

Well I've been p***ing the time reading stories of misdiagnosed miscarriages.  Stories just like mine....a heartbeat detected, then spotting or bleeding leading to second u/s where embreyo is too small and no hb detected and diagnosed with a m/c.  The women declined a d&c (as I did) and went home to have a natural m/c that never came.  Only to have a repeat u/s with a healthy embreyo with hb.  This is common with women with tilted uteruses which i have and when dates are not certain.  I was not sure of my lmp so I guessed.  I was pretty sure I was close so I didn't tell them it was a guess.  It's entirely possible my baby isn't too small, it's just right and we're wrong about the dates and it's too early for a hb.  Anyway, my baby hasn't p***ed, the bleeding isn't heavy only when I wipe with the occaisional clot and my cramping isnt bad. So I'm holding on for a miracle. My doctor was very understanding about my decision to not have a d&c and gave me 2 weeks to p*** it on my own.  If nothing happens by then, that should be plenty of time to see a hb.  i know I'm probably crazy for doing this to myself but I do have hope.  Please keep me in prayer.

[TM]

Ruth, just checking in to see how you are doing?? I am praying for you.
Keep us posted.
Teresa

[russell12170]

Hey Teresa,
You sent this message on the same day I p***ed my sweet angel.  There just wasn't a miracle for me.

[TM]

I'm so sorry Ruth.

I know the heartache you must be feeling right now. I hope you can find some peace!
Teresa

[russell12170]

Thank you Teresa. I'm kind of just numb right now.  Can't really believe it happened again. I know there are so many women on here who have lost multiple pregancies but I never thought I'd be one of them.  Just kind of blind sided me. 
We are not TTC but we are not preventing either. Just kind of leaving it in God's hands. 
How far along are you? What's the update on your pregnancy? Don't be afraid to talk to me about it. I can handle it. My neighbor and one of my friends is pregnant and I'm doing ok with it.

[TM]

Hi Ruth,
Thanks for asking, my pregnancy is going well. I am 29 weeks tomorrow. My blood pressure has not gone up this time and things are moving along well.
We are trying to sell our house right now and have bought a new house that we have a couple of more weeks to sell ours or the other deal falls through. I have gotten to the point that I don't really care either way.

Having constant showings and open houses and trying to keep our house spotless is starting to wear on me as I am 7 months pregnant and chasing around a 2 year old as well as working 3 days a week. So things are a bit hectic right now.

Anyway we will just have to wait and see what happens.

I am thinking of you and praying for you and your family.
Teresa

[russell12170]

Why are you selling your house? Need a bigger one for the new baby?
I hope it all goes well for you. I hate the stress of buying/selling a home. But don't let it stress you out. Not worth it. Whatever happens, happens. 
Well I wonder if you know the answer to this. When exactly should you expect your first period after a miscarriage? I miscarried on July 19th. So I counted 28 days from there just to give me an idea of when to start looking. That was yesterday and I still didn't get it. On August 12th I had my hormone levels checked and it was finally zero. So should I start from there??? I'm confused.

[TM]

Hi Ruth,
we are selling our house because we want more room. We would like an another bedroom and more storage and our kitchen is really small. We only have 2 weeks left and then we will lose the other house so we will see what happens.

Unfortunately in my experience with my own miscarriage and with others I know who have had one, there is no rhyme or reason to when you should expect your period. Mine came back pretty close to a cycle after but I ended up having to have a D & C so my whole uterus was basically scraped out and then was not a lot of bleeding after that. If you m/c naturally then it could be some time. Your body will need to heal and to completely shed the lining etc. I know people who did not get a period resembling anything normal for months. I am sure this is not what you wanted to hear...sorry. I wish there was a more clear answer for you.

Teresa

[russell12170]

Well, my cycle is back to normal. That's at least good news right? it's 30 days. So technically I should be ovulating right about now and we haven't been preventing so maybe we'll be pregnant this month. I know it probably seems too soon but I didn't require surgery and I did have a normal cycle so I'm not too worried. Well I'm worried, but not about timing.
An update of my mental status.....I have more closure with this miscarriage than I did the last one. I was determined of that because it was lack of closure that kept me grieving. I was working with a local funeral home that has a memorial garden. We were going to bury her there but we are not staying here and I was so torn. I didn't know what to do so finally we decided on cremation. I know that probably sounds insane but it is the closure we needed. The state requires a death certificate to do a cremation so we have that as well. We named her Lori Renee after the two people who offered me such comfort as I was going through the miscarriage. So now when we move, If we choose to have a burial, we can take her remains with us and do it in our home town. 
I hope your home sold and you're busy moving.